Are third parties important in a Marriage?

I believe one in every two marriages today ends in divorce. And this is on the increase! The environment today plays a major role but ultimately the individuals have to take responsibility for their failures.

May 29, 2014

Dear Editor,

I believe one in every two marriages today ends in divorce. And this is on the increase! The environment today plays a major role but ultimately the individuals have to take responsibility for their failures. In many cases there are legitimate reasons for the break up but unfortunately in most cases it is for the flimsiest of excuses and for selfish reasons.

The impact of divorces not only takes a toll on the parties concerned but on the children who are the ones who suffer most through no fault of their own. Some children may even grow up feeling that they are responsible for the divorce and without proper family life, social problems arise. They may seek love outside the home and in their innocence be led astray and manipulated. Children need a loving home environment to feel secure and for healthy growth. If not, they will look elsewhere. They cannot come home to a battle field each day.

It is unfortunate therefore that most families today break up in the hope of greener pastures. The need to work at the marriage is less when taking another spouse is an option. As highlighted in the press lately, the ‘strawberry’ generation today is one of self-centredness where criticisms are not tolerated. When the honeymoon is over and the realities of marriage set in and is short of their expectations, the easy way out is to quit, to continue to seek that elusive dream.

I believe that for a marriage to work, we need to include God in the marriage. It is a trinity of the couple and God. We need the grace of God to be humble, forgiving, tolerant, faithful, have self-control but most of all to love generously, to love so deeply that the happiness of the spouse supercedes one’s own. On human strength alone, we cannot make this happen. We need a third party...and that is God!

Angeline Lesslar
Subang Jaya

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